French Customs

Some Useful Information on French Customs

Shaking hands upon greeting and parting is customary in France, (a light grip and a single quick shake) and man to woman, woman to woman, and woman to man by lightly kissing on the cheeks, it can be once on the left and once on the right, this can vary upon the region of France, (like Mayenne) it is repeated so “four times” – (left to right, right to left and repeat).

It is customary to say 'Bonjour' or 'Bonsoir' when entering a shop and 'Au Revoir' when leaving. Use the same greeting for neighbours adding Madame, Monsieur or Mademoiselle and their surname, only family and very close friends are greeted by the first name. Always wait until being invited to use someone’s first name.

The French gesture for "OK" is the "thumbs up" sign. “Zero” to the French is the round index finger touching tip of the thumb.

The French have a great respect for privacy. Knock and wait before entering into a room. Additionally, do not "arrive" unannounced. Always give notice before your arrival.

Another point to remember is when greeting a neighbour or acquaintance, avoid asking how the wife or husband is, the French see this as an invasion of privacy, it is however, acceptable to ask how the “family” are.

When accepting an invitation for a meal an accepted gift is a pre-agreed desert or cheese dish but should you wish to give flowers, never choose Chrysanthemums (given at funerals), Carnations (bad luck), Red Roses or any white flowers (Weddings). Although the younger generation are not so strict on this. Avoid giving Wine unless you are a connoisseur and can give the highest quality.

When writing a letter, this is customary to end it with the sentence “Veuillez accepter, Madame (or Monsieur), mes salutations distinguées.” Avoid the “yours sincerely”, “yours faithfully”, etc. Always commence the letter Madame or Monsieur – never with the word “dear”.