Table Etiquette in France

Useful Information on Table Etiquette in France

If invited for a meal by a French family the following information may be useful to you:

Arrive on time, if delayed by more than 10 minutes then a telephone call is in order with an explanation and arrival time. (This can be slightly different in various Regions of France, the further south the more flexible). Paris is an exception to the rule.

You should always wait for the host to lead the way therefore, when the aperitif is served, wait for everyone to receive their drink and the host will then give a toast, after which “glass clink” before drinking, and do not start the meal until the host has said “bon appetit” and you all reply “sante”.

A French meal usually consists of 5 courses, a starter, main course, salad, cheese course, and dessert. Water and bread are made available throughout the meal. Wine is constantly offered so if you do not require a refill, then never empty your glass. The French always fill a glass to three-quarters, never to the brim.

Fold your salad onto your fork by using your knife. Do not cut your salad with a knife or fork.

There usually are no bread plates. Put bread on the table next to your dinner plate above your fork.

To see how one cuts cheese – see our “Cheese page” at www.joinusinfrance.net

Always tear your bread into pieces before eating, never take the whole piece of bread and bite a piece off in your mouth, this is considered rude and impolite. A piece of bread (usually on your fork) is taken at the end of each course and you wipe your plate clean with it, never use your hand.

The same plate and cutlery are usually used for every course. Always finish what is on your plate. However, in a more formal setting, every course is served on a new plate, so cleaning the plate is not necessary.

It is customary to gently rest your hands on the table (not your elbows). (Do not place your hands in your lap, again this is considered rude)

Do not ask for a tour of your host's home, it is considered impolite.

(If the host offers orange juice or similar at the end of the meal, then that is a hint that its time to leave.)